Well we had a wonderful meeting last Friday.. a lot of our questions were answered and a lot of questions too answer. We have begun to think about our portfolio and what we would like potential families to know about us...my biggest question with this is will they like us? What draws a mother to you through photographs and words? At times I think of the game red rover, as a kid I was picked toward the front of the pack, but what about now? What will she see in us to know that we are the family for her baby. I just keep reminding myself of the words FAITH and HOPE.. for that is all we have.
At our meeting we were given some reading tasks, if you would like to know about adoption I urge you to read these books also, then you will know what Jon and I are going through and what other adopted parents, birthmothers and children have also experienced.
Here are the books:
Launching a baby's adoption- Johnston
Dear Birthmother- Sibler & Speedlin
Prayers and Love
J and K
I can't begin to tell you how much we thought the same thing, when dealing w/ waiting for a BM to choose us...the "why," "when," etc.
ReplyDeleteIt really comes down to NOT "how quickly" your chosen, or who is chosen before you, but instead being chose by the RIGHT birthmom. You will know this (that you've been chose by the right birthmom) once you begin going through the process w/ her and things just begin to mesh...
If you present yourself truly and honestly in your profile, the exact, perfect BM WILL chose you and it will be the right match.
note: it seems normal to want to talk "up" about your accomplishments and all that you own (homes, cottages) and do (traveling, etc), but when it comes down to it, a BM is thinking the SAME thing as we are..."who would ever want MY baby?" A BM typically comes from humble means herself and can be very intimidated(i.e turned off) by those who would chose to represent themselves as "the best of the best." (make sense?)